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Life’s #1 Regret


When I learned the #1 regret of people who are in hospice, I was amazed. Then as I began to ask people their #1 regret, I found that the majority of the people who responded said the same thing as those in hospice. I was very, very surprised. Perhaps I shouldn’t have been since most of my life has been spent learning why this is true.

A caregiver named Bonnie Ware worked with people in hospice for several years. In the process, she engaged in conversation that included dialogue about regrets. What she found was that the #1 regret of people in their last days of life is:

 “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

Even though I was amazed that the #1 regret is that people were not living their true life (this means authentic), I guess I shouldn’t be. Through the years I have learned and shared, especially through these newsletters, that there are so many ways to be inauthentic. No matter what part of society you might look in, you will probably find some instances where inauthenticity has become the norm.

In so many cases, people have forgotten who they are. As we are collectively enticed to spend more as the way to find happiness (and many other misguided values), we lose sight of who we truly are and who we can be, as we fall into the expectations of others. This can become a habit that is hard to change. The remedy is to consciously live with no regrets.

When people have regrets it can generally be traced back to a decision that was made. When we make decisions, we cannot see what the future will bring and therefore how our choice will play out. Only time will tell.

For the past two weeks, you have shared what you regret. Thank you to those who have shared. For those who have not, please send your story.

If you are ready to move past the regrets and live a ‘no regrets’ life, let’s have a conversation. I’m seeking a few clients who are ready to live with no regrets. The secret to no regrets is making decisions that are aligned with who you are and your purpose. This means you need to be aware of both. The work I have been engrossed in for many years is just what you have been looking for. Let’s have a conversation to discuss your goals and how you can live the rest of your life with no regrets.

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With Love and Authenticity,


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